Safe Touch And Unsafe Touch

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Topic

Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch

Overview

Students will recognize the difference between a Safe Touch and an Unsafe Touch. Children learn that everyone has private parts that should not be touched. Students will learn they can use their Safety Voice to tell a Safe Adult about unsafe touches that make them uncomfortable.

Learning Objectives

  • Students will learn the characteristics of Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch.
  • Students will apply Think, Feel, Do in an Unsafe scenario.
  • Students will understand respect for their own body, body boundaries, and consent.
  • Students will understand that no one should be looking at or touching their
    private parts.
  • Students will identify grown ups in their Circle of Safe Adults they can talk to if they receive a confusing or Unsafe Touch.
  • Students will be empowered to use their Safety Voice if they receive an Unsafe Touch.

Essential Question(S)

  • How do you recognize the difference between a Safe Touch and an Unsafe Touch?
  • What should someone do if they receive a confusing or Unsafe Touch?

Content Standards/Benchmarks

National Sex Ed. Benchmarks

IV.2.CC.1 Define child abuse and identify behaviors that would be considered child
sexual abuse.

IV.2.AI.2 Identify trusted adults including parents and caregivers that you can talk to about situations which may be uncomfortable or dangerous.

 

Florida Health Ed. Benchmarks

HE.2.B.4.3 Demonstrate ways to respond to unwanted, threatening or dangerous situations.

HE.2.B.3.2 Select trusted adults and professionals who can help promote health.

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Vocabulary

  • Safe Touch
  • Unsafe Touch
  • Safety Voice
  • Think
  • Feel
  • Do
  • Circle of Safe Adults
  • Body Boundaries
  • Consent
  • Private Parts
  • Empowered
  • Permission

Material List

  • Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch Lesson Guide
  • Safe Touch Poster and Unsafe Touch Poster
  • Circle of Safe Adults Poster
  • Think, Feel, Do Poster
  • Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch Labels
  • Scenario Cards (18 cards total)

Estimated Time Frame

30 minutes

Technology Tools

Printer

Projector/Smart Board (optional)

Lesson Description

  1. Teach Safe Touches vs Unsafe Touches (See Lesson Guide)
  2. Discuss private parts and swimsuits (See Lesson Guide )
  3. Activity: Students identify a grown up in their Circle of Safe Adults (See Lesson Guide )
  4. Discussion: THINK, FEEL, DO (See Lesson Guide)
  5. Activity: Scenario Cards Sort (See Lesson Guide and Printable Activity sheet)
  6. Closing Statements (See Lesson Guide)

Teacher Notes:

Children’s responses to learning about Safe Touches and Unsafe Touches are positive and empowering. Children do not carry the adult fear and knowledge associated with the concept. Students are eager and comfortable talking about this topic. Research supports positive outcomes for children who learn prevention education.

Teaching children about body boundaries, Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch and that they have the ability to say no to a touch (even from someone they know and trust) are the first steps in teaching consent. At this age, consent is the ability to ask permission or grant permission for a friend or known adult for a hug, a kiss, a touch, or to borrow things.

A note on reporting child abuse: If you do receive a disclosure, or a child has said something that has raised suspicion for abuse, you are a mandated reporter and need to follow your states protocol for reporting child abuse. The National Child Abuse Hotline Number is 1-800-4-A-Child (1-800-422-4453).

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Lesson Guide

1. Teach Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch

You can use the Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch posters to help explain these concepts. Let your students discuss their answers to the following questions:

What is a safe touch? (Possible answers: holding hands, pat on the back, special handshake, high five, hug from someone they want to hug, cuddling with favorite grown up, etc.)

How does a safe touch make you feel? (Possible answers: safe, calm, happy, comfortable, warm and fuzzy, etc.)

What is an unsafe touch? (Possible answers: hit, punch, kick, pinch, scratch, an unwanted hug or kiss, pulling hair, etc.)

How does an unsafe touch make you feel? (Possible answers: weird, yucky, uncomfortable, annoyed, angry, sad, confused)

2. Discuss Private Parts and Swimsuits

Tell students that bathing suits cover private parts. Ask students to think of the parts of their body that their bathing suit covers. These areas are private parts. Teach students that no one should ever touch their private parts. Mouths are also a private part. Let students know that no one should be touching or putting anything in their mouth without their permission.

3. Circle of Safe Adults Activity

Stress to students that if they receive an unsafe touch or a touch that makes them feel uncomfortable or confused, they have to tell a trusted grown up.

Use the Circle of Safe Adults poster to help students identify safe adults in their lives.

Explain to students that Safe adults are the trusted grown ups in our lives. Safe adults are who we can go to when we need to use our Safety Voice and ask for help. Using our Safety Voice helps to keep us safe and out of trouble.

Ask students, who is in your Circle of Safe Adults? Write their answers on the Circle of Safe Adults poster (you can laminate and reuse the poster, or project the poster onto a smartboard)

4. Think, Feel, Do Discussion

Use the THINK, FEEL, DO poster to help explain each component of THINK, FEEL, DO. Ask students what they think each step of THINK, FEEL, DO means.

After discussion, introduce each step and explain in depth.

THINK: When we THINK, we use our head to help us make safe choices. When we THINK, we listen to our thoughts and our inner safety voice. We THINK about if our choices are safe.

FEEL: We use our bodies to FEEL different signals. Our bodies give us clues that we FEEL. Listening to how our bodies FEEL can help us to make safe choices. Unsafe choices make us FEEL uncomfortable or upset. Safe choices make us FEEL comfortable or calm.

DO: If you THINK something might be unsafe, and you FEEL your body giving you clues, you have to decide what you are going to DO next.

Teach students they can use THINK, FEEL, DO to help themselves make safe choices!

5. Scenario Card Sorts

Cut the Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch labels apart. Place the labels on two separate bins (or areas). This creates two separate areas for students to sort the scenarios, one area for situations that students think describe a Safe Touch and one area for scenarios students think describe an Unsafe Touch.

Read the scenarios one-by-one and answer the following THINK, FEEL, DO questions at the bottom of card:

What might you think?

What might you feel?

What could you do?

After students discuss their answers, they decide if this situation describes a Safe Touch or an Unsafe Touch. Students drop the card into the correctly labeled bin based on their answer.

5. Closing Statement

You have learned that there are two kinds of touches; Safe Touches make you feel comfortable, safe, and loved. Unsafe Touches make you feel yucky, uncomfortable, and confused. No one has the right to cross your body boundaries and give you an Unsafe Touch. Always tell a trusted grown-up if you get an Unsafe Touch.

SAFE TOUCH

Safe touches are touches that make us happy and comfortable. Safe touches make us feel safe, secure, warm and fuzzy, cared for, and loved. Safe touches do not feel weird or uncomfortable.

Safe Touch Activity

Safe Touches Examples:

  • hand holding
  • special handshakes
  • hugs from a loved one
  • cuddling with your favorite grown up.

UNSAFE TOUCH

Unsafe touches are uncomfortable touches that make us feel unsafe, weird, or yucky. Unsafe touches make us feel worried, angry, scared, or confused.

Safe Touch Activity

Unsafe Touches Examples:

  • Touching parts covered by your bathing suit
  • Unwanted Hugs or kisses
  • Hitting
  • Slapping.
  • Pushing

SAFE ADULTS

Safe adults are the trusted grown ups in our lives. Safe adults are who we can go to when we need to use our Safety Voice and ask for help. Who are the safe adults in your life?

Circle Safe Adults

THINK, FEEL, DO     

THINK

We use our heads to THINK

FEEL

Our bodies give us clues we can FEEL

DO

If we THINK and FEEL that we are unsafe,

we have to choose what to DO next

Activity

Safe Touch Unsafe Touch Poster

A family member reaches over and holds your hand during a scary part of the movie.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

Her friend just gave her a high five to the face. The smack to the face really hurt her.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

He created a special handshake with his friend. Whenever they see each other, they do their special handshake.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

She was headed to the slide but she wasn’t moving very quickly. Someone pushed her out of their way.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

He just got a hug from someone he loves. He really likes and looks forward to their warm hugs.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

They are playing too rough. It started out fun, but it doesn’t feel fun anymore.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

When he got home from school, his mom was waiting with a Kiss at the front door. She does this daily.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

A stranger reaches for a hug from her. She doesn’t feel very comfortable being touched.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

They are having a family movie night. She loves cuddling with her favorite grown up.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

When she got home from school, her neighbor was outside. He asked her for a quick kiss.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

She got sick at school and her clothes got dirty. The nurse tries to help change her into fresh clothes.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

When you get out of the shower, the babysitter asks if they can help you to dry off.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

While taking a test, your teacher walks by and pats your back. They tell you they are proud of your hard work.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

While playing at recess, someone touched his private parts.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

Your grown up had to leave the room to take a phone call. While you are alone, the doctor asks you to undress.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

A friend asks if they can look under your bathing suit. They are curious about what is underneath.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

Wrestling was fun at first but now he wants it to stop. It is getting too rough for him to be comfortable.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?

While waiting in line, the person behind them keeps pulling their hair. It’s starting to get really annoying.

Safe touch or unsafe touch? How would you feel? What should you do?