When I was a psychotherapist one of the homework assignments I would give my adult patients was have them write their own obituary. I know this sounds like a strange assignment, however many people who are stuck, depressed, unsure or angry can be people with no clear direction or people who have lost direction over the years. The obituary assignment is written as if it would be placed in the local paper or perhaps read at your funeral. It can be a very powerful personal reflection exercise. The process helps clarify how you want your life to be, what youwish you were doing, how you wish you were living, sometimes patients would find they were really doing a lot of what they wanted to be to doing – wanted to be remembered doing and being. Or more often – they saw they had been side tracked on to a different path from what they truly wanted to be. In session I would ask the patient to clarify 1 or 2 things from the obituary list they could do right now? And we would work on these goals….small steps…to the bigger steps – because in the end, when you take the time to look back on your life – the things you gave so much power and time to: other people, what other people think, money, goods, things – those will not be what’s important. What will be important is up to YOU – but I can almost personally guarantee that on your list will be: being a good person, giving back to the world (as you can always find someone with less or in more need), and leaving the world a better place than how you found it.
I know from what I speak as almost every life changing decision I have made has sprung from practicing what I preach and taking time to think about the kind of person I want to be in this life and how I want to be remembered. I live my life striving to be the best wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, teacher and person. Can I always do it? NO – but I try and at the end of the day that is all you can really ask of anyone….TRY to be the best you can be. But I can assure you that when you give back to others in need, when you find your calling, your niche in how you can give back…you will feel good.
As we start the New Year I am reflecting on the directions I am going with the many roles I play on this earth. I hope that this moment of reflection will propel you forward to find how you can give back and therefore become the BEST you can be! As I end this reflection I just want to say that that there are so many worthy organizations that need your help right now. If everyone of us took the time to give back our world would be a different place. I have chosen to put my efforts into keeping KidSafe – if you would like to join us in our mission to keep children safe. Please join our Facebook Group, Follow KidSafeMoms on twitter, firstname.lastname@example.org or make a donation www.kidsafefoundation.org