She seemed perfect but something was terribly wrong

She seemed “perfect “– But Something was Terribly Wrong!!! Why have I chosen my mission to keep Kids Safe? One little girl changed my life!!! This is my story: I am a licensed clinical social worker. Years ago I was a Guidance Counselor in a middle school and was fortunate to know an amazing 12 year old girl – she was a straight A student, class president, and often served as a role model for new students getting acclimated to the school. She came to my office one day and handed me a little magazine clipping – it read: My step-father has been sexually abusing me what do I do? I was stunned!!!

In my work, reports of sexual abuse were not uncommon, BUT in this situation I was thrown off guard as I didn’t detect any of the typical signs of abuse that the ‘textbooks’ teach us. She seemed “perfect”. We went through the procedures of reporting to the authorities and after a long hard battle the step-father finally went to jail. Later on in counseling I asked what prompted her to come forward at that time. She revealed that her step-father was showing interest in her 7 year old sister…..the age she was when he moved into her house and starting abusing her.

One of the most disturbing parts of this story is that her step-father was the co- president of our PTA – he had put himself in a position of authority in our school. He was banking on us doubting her claim. We believed her….Children do not lie about sexual abuse. This incident sent me from a world of reactive social work to proactive prevention education….. And KidSafe was born. I began teaching all children in the school prevention education – with the new realization that ALL children need information to help keep them safe. All children need to know they have rights! – The right to keep their bodies safe, the right to say NO, and the right to TELL. 90% of the time a child is abused it is by someone they know and trust….just like my student. However, 95% of abuse of children can be prevented through education.

We owe it to our children to give them the necessary life skills to be safe. One “Perfect” student changed the course of my life. You can help change the course of other children out there who may be suffering in silence. Please join our Mission to bring personal safety education to all children through our KidSafe Foundation.

Testimonials

"Thank you for giving us the opportunity to be included in the KidSafe program. I highly recommend this program to other schools. We hope that we will be given the same opportunity for our Kindergarten and 2nd grade students to be a part of this wonderful program during the 2016-2017 school year."

Mrs. Keelyn Meselsohn 2nd Grade Teacher/Team Leader Tradewinds Elementary School

"The Safe and Smart Series Book My Body Is Special and Belongs To Me is kept in my middle school clinic and has been a tool that has opened many conversations for me between students that have experienced a difficult situation and were unable to talk about it. Through the illustrations and nonjudgmental verbiage the author has allowed kids permission to share their feelings about invasion of their personal space. Thank you so much."

Nurse Connie, PBC School Nurse 6.8.2016

"I'm so grateful that KidSafe has partnered with my daughter's school.  I learned so much in the parent training--how to recognize potential sexual predator behavior; how to quiz my child about what they would do in different scenarios; and how to explain safe and unsafe touch.  In addition, knowing that my daughter is receiving weekly trainings on these topics gives me great peace of mind.  I have confidence that I can reinforce what she is learning in school in order to prevent her from ever being a victim of such a heinous crime.  Thank you KidSafe for your dedication to protecting our communities' most vulnerable citizens."

Christina Kranick

“It was a normal Saturday and I was at the rink with my 7 and 8 year old. My son asked me if he could use the Men’s Restroom by himself.  Without hesitation, my daughter said,  Absolutely not! I was in KidSafe today and you cannot go to the restroom alone.  It is very important that Mommy is with you.. with us.   I was so proud of my little girl!  We are so blessed to have Debbie Miller at our school teaching our children the importance of safety. Many thanks to you all!  Your program and instruction is absolutely amazing.  Keep up the great work!"  

Tara Henley Admissions Assistant, St. Mark’s Episcopal Church and School, Ft. Lauderdale

I am a parent of two Pine Crest children and I attended your program on Monday night. I just wanted to thank you so very much for the very informative seminar. As hard as it was to hear all of those things, it was very needed. We were thrilled that you were able to come and share that very important information with us and our children. So again...thank you.

Elisa Aronberg

Today’s training was awesome! It was very informative. Sally was a very good resource, she motivated us a lot! We want to pass on this information to parents, teachers and students! Thank you for offering workshops like this. These are tools we use to continue serving our children and families.

Participant from Children’s Services Council of Broward Seminar

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