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Reporting vs. Tattling – Does your child know the difference?When it comes to safety – does your child understand the difference between Tattling and Reporting? Do you? If not…you and your child should. It is very important that we teach our children from as young as 3 years old the difference between tattling and reporting.

Tattling is when a child goes to a grown-up and tells something to the grown-up just to get the other person in trouble.

Reporting is when a child goes to a grown-up and tells (reports) anything that has to do with the safety of him/herself or the safety of others. It is our responsibility to teach our children the importance of reporting to a grown-up.

Why? When we just tell children to “stop tattling” without finding out if what they are sharing with you is about safety…we are teaching our children NOT to come to us and tell us important information. We are breaking down the communication between ourselves and our children. One of the most effective ways to keep our children safe is to have great communication – you want our children to come to you with important safety concerns..don’t you?

So what can you do? We can ask our children when they come to us, is this tattling or reporting? Remind them when tattling they are trying to get someone into trouble (and wasting mommy’s time), but if they are reporting a safety concern, we are here to listen – if it’s reporting we say: “great job reporting. I am so glad you came to tell me. You did the right thing by reporting.” By encouraging your children at a young age to come to report to you if they are concerned about their safety or the safety of others you are opening the door to effective communication.

If your children get into the habit of reporting to you at a young age imagine the difference in your relationship as they get into the teenage years? Do you want to be the parent of a child that will call you if they or their friend is too drunk to drive? If you have had effective communication with your child, and they know they can report to you anything about safety and they will not be in trouble, they will come to you…Isn’t that what we all what? But imagine this scenario – you continue to tell your child not to tattle…they stop coming to you, afraid to get into trouble or you will be mad. They are now 16 and their friend is too drunk to drive….what do you think they will do?? Get behind the wheel…probably! The simple step of finding out if your child is tattling or reporting can make the difference in your communication with your child…being there for you child to discuss important safety issues with you without reproach or retaliation can make the difference in your child making safe and smart choices as they grow.

Testimonials

"Thank you for giving us the opportunity to be included in the KidSafe program. I highly recommend this program to other schools. We hope that we will be given the same opportunity for our Kindergarten and 2nd grade students to be a part of this wonderful program during the 2016-2017 school year."

Mrs. Keelyn Meselsohn 2nd Grade Teacher/Team Leader Tradewinds Elementary School

"The Safe and Smart Series Book My Body Is Special and Belongs To Me is kept in my middle school clinic and has been a tool that has opened many conversations for me between students that have experienced a difficult situation and were unable to talk about it. Through the illustrations and nonjudgmental verbiage the author has allowed kids permission to share their feelings about invasion of their personal space. Thank you so much."

Nurse Connie, PBC School Nurse 6.8.2016

"I'm so grateful that KidSafe has partnered with my daughter's school.  I learned so much in the parent training--how to recognize potential sexual predator behavior; how to quiz my child about what they would do in different scenarios; and how to explain safe and unsafe touch.  In addition, knowing that my daughter is receiving weekly trainings on these topics gives me great peace of mind.  I have confidence that I can reinforce what she is learning in school in order to prevent her from ever being a victim of such a heinous crime.  Thank you KidSafe for your dedication to protecting our communities' most vulnerable citizens."

Christina Kranick

“It was a normal Saturday and I was at the rink with my 7 and 8 year old. My son asked me if he could use the Men’s Restroom by himself.  Without hesitation, my daughter said,  Absolutely not! I was in KidSafe today and you cannot go to the restroom alone.  It is very important that Mommy is with you.. with us.   I was so proud of my little girl!  We are so blessed to have Debbie Miller at our school teaching our children the importance of safety. Many thanks to you all!  Your program and instruction is absolutely amazing.  Keep up the great work!"  

Tara Henley Admissions Assistant, St. Mark’s Episcopal Church and School, Ft. Lauderdale

I am a parent of two Pine Crest children and I attended your program on Monday night. I just wanted to thank you so very much for the very informative seminar. As hard as it was to hear all of those things, it was very needed. We were thrilled that you were able to come and share that very important information with us and our children. So again...thank you.

Elisa Aronberg

Today’s training was awesome! It was very informative. Sally was a very good resource, she motivated us a lot! We want to pass on this information to parents, teachers and students! Thank you for offering workshops like this. These are tools we use to continue serving our children and families.

Participant from Children’s Services Council of Broward Seminar

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