Stop telling your children “don’t tattle.” Instead teach them the difference between tattling and reporting.
Tattling is when you go to a grown up, just to get the other person in trouble. Reporting is going to a grown up when ever it comes to the safety of yourself or the safety of a friend.
Every time your children come to you to tell you something – ask “Are you tattling or reporting?” If they are reporting….sit down, turn off your phone, computer, or tv and look them in the eye, listen and tell them “great job reporting.”
Start this at a young age and see reporting unsafe situations to you become a habit. Imagine you start this when your child is 3…it becomes a habit….Now they are 16 and with friends who are drinking. You are the parent they are going to call, because they have been in the habit of reporting unsafe situations to you since they were little.