Are children becoming desensitized to human suffering?

             As the amazing technology of our world develops at a rapid pace, and with the death of Steve Jobs a brilliant innovative man, I ponder about the incredible advances that have been made since I was born in 1967.  Our lives are techno and if you’re not in it or on it, you’re just not with it. Today we can not only talk to our friends and family near and far, we can video chat, send a quick word with a text, remember someone’s birthday from a pop up reminder on Facebook and twitter our innermost thoughts…it is amazing!!!

               But with all good things there is a risk, and that risk is the rise of more children being abused and more children acting out violently. The ease with which the abuse can now take place is startling to those in the world of child safety. It’s become infinitely easier through technology, for people that want to harm our children.  Predators are, (mistakenly on our part), welcomed in our homes through our children’s use of games and the internet. Children are also crossing boundaries and participating in such behaviors as, videotaping themselves bullying and then uploading on YouTube for the world to see. The filter of right and wrong, appropriate vs. inappropriate, seems to be gone, for many of our youth – our future leaders of tomorrow.

              My belief is that we and our children are becoming so desensitized to child abuse and bullying because it is in front of our faces every day, every minute, every second. It’s not unusual for this to happen, I mean if you continue to see heartache and human suffering at some point your mind will compartmentalize the horrors, so one can function and put one foot in front of the other each day. But, what I am attempting to do with this blog is to ask you to take a deep breath, stop what you are doing and ask yourself, Is that the kind of world we want our children to live in? Is that how we want our children to act?  Do we want our children to just walk by the homeless person on the street without a care? Or hear about a girl set on fire by another student and think, not only is there nothing wrong with it, but not even give it a second thought? Do we want our children to believe this is it? That the world can’t be a better place and/or that it is some one else’s job to fix what ills the world?

                 The bullies and the predators are winning if we allow ourselves and or our children to become desensitized to human suffering…..Do you realize this is happening? It’s a bitter pill to swallow. So what can we do? How can we make this world a better place when the  advances in technology that make so many things so great and easy also make it so easy for people that want to harm children? Think about the old saying an “eye for an eye”

              But,  let’s look at it a different way, what if every time you read or heard a story about abuse – you and your children went to do something good for someone who needs your help? Giving back, being good, surrounding yourself and your children with people who are charitable and philanthropic and believe by being this way they can make a difference in our world. That is how we can combat the bad. How will our children know how to do this? We as parents need to model for our children being good and giving back…that’s the key to tipping the scales to help the good guys win!

            Our world will continue to grow technologically at massive speeds and our children could continue at this pace… of seeing  so much human suffering that they are completely  desensitized to it. Do you know what will happen?  They will raise children who don’t care either  –  and well the reason for this blog is, I don’t want that to happen and I know you don’t either. So I ask you – if you are not giving back. What are you doing?

         If you are not being a good role model and being there for your children to discuss the negative and inappropriate things they are seeing and hearing about on a daily basis, how are they to understand? How are they to learn to empathize? How will they learn to be part of the solution and not part of the problem?

          So if you read this far – you believe what I am saying and you too might be apprehensive about our children and us becoming desensitized to human suffering – Make a list of things you can do with your child right now to make the world a better place and do it! Do it when you hear of a terrible story, Do it once a week…once a month, every holiday, or whatever works for you and your family.

        The more we give back, the more we choose to do the “right” thing, the more we empathize about human suffering and try our best to be our “best,” the better chance we will have to be a positive influence on our children – helping them directly understand the more complicated aspects of the world they are exposed to today and raise future leaders of the world we can be proud of.


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