Do you want to know all of your child’s secrets? Some parents would say “yes” others may say “no”. We certainly don’t need to know everything our children do and say throughout their lives, however, we feel it is extremely important to teach children about the issue of secrets. Teaching children the difference between a good secret and a bad secret is not difficult and it is a must to keeping our children safe. Predators (could be a family member, coach, babysitter etc. – 90% of the time a child is harmed it is by someone they know) want your child to be able to keep a secret. A predator may start with a small secret and if your child keeps it, they now know they have an easy target. We want all children to be off limits to predators and one way we can stop them is by teaching our children the difference between a good secret and a bad secret. Have you ever had this conversation with your child? If not…it is not to late…sit down and discuss this:
- Family policy: NO secrets
- Discuss “What if” scenarios to see how your children would handle specific situations. This is really important….children are faced with difficult situations and if you have not talked with them about how to navigate through to the safest and smartest choices they will be unsure how to best handle them. It is important to remain poker faced as they tell you how they would handle something as it might not be the safest or smartest choice. Allow your child to talk it through with you without immediately reacting (or over reacting) then discuss different options that may be a safer choice.
Our book, My Body is Special and Belongs To ME! Is a great teaching tool for your child. Above is a page from our book teaching children about secrets. Our children’s book also contains an extensive parent section to help you continuing the learning. By having the conversation about good secrets and bad secrets you have now deepened the lines of communication between you and your child and taught your child one way to become a hard target for a predator. To purchase our book,My Body is Special and Belongs to ME!http://www.kidsafefoundation.org/products/ all proceeds from our book help support the F